Y’all. Being a mother is by far the most challenging and yet rewarding, frustrating and yet awe inspiring roles I have ever had. I don’t ever for one second want to take it for granted. But can we be real about it? Momming is hard work. And some days are tough.
We’re in the twos these days over here with Little and man, what a whirlwind this season is! I really don’t love the phrase “terrible twos” for a number of reasons, but mostly because I don’t really think it’s that terrible. Little is learning so much and part of that is his learning to reason and test boundaries. That’s normal – not terrible. I could write a whole separate post on my thoughts about this…
But, at the end of the day, I think we can just all admit that some days just don’t go as planned. Some days take every single bit out of you and leave you a mess before bedtime.
Maybe that’s you today. Or maybe it was you yesterday. It might even be you next week.
I don’t know what your hard day looks like.
It might look like a fun activity that you spent time planning specifically for your little one who decided it wasn’t a big deal and wouldn’t get dressed to get out of the door.
It might look like water everywhere after you just cleaned up because someone decided that you put their drink in the wrong cup. Or 3 meals left on the counter that no one touched while you eat cereal for dinner.
It might just look like your sweet little one being sick and feeling like there is nothing you can do. (This is the worst, I think.)
Maybe it looks like not having a shower in three days or a solid night’s rest in even longer.
Perhaps it just means being told “no!” a hundred times during the day when all you want is to get your kid what they want – you just need them to follow the rules to get there.
Or maybe, it is just the sound of you repeating the same thing over. and over. because you know how important it is to be consistent. (I mean, we know this, but good grief, it would be so much easier to just give in sometimes.)
It could just be that everything you need to do takes longer than expected or doesn’t go as planned…even if your kid is behaving perfectly.
If you can relate to any of that today, Mama, I want to share some encouragement with you. These are the things I cling to during those days. The things that I must remind myself on a regular basis. This are the truths that keep me from being overcome.
Your Work Matters
Like, really matters. It matters to your children, your family, and it matters to God. The seeds you are planting now in the way that you speak to your children, the way you discipline them and show them love, they are seeds that are taking root. I’ve been reading a great devotional recently called Walking with God in the Season of Motherhood. It’s been a great and challenging way for me to dig in and apply the truth of God’s word to my parenting. One passage that has really struck me is the following:
“The work you do in your home is of great significance. As a pastor once said, ‘All should realize the sublime idea that their houses are schools for eternity; their children the scholars; themselves the teachers; & Evangelical religion the lesson.’ Never doubt that your labors matter. The mundane moments of your day become sacred when viewed with the right understanding of your calling.”
Our children see the way we work to take care of our homes and families, and them. If you work outside of the home, they see that, too. They see you balancing so many things. The way that we work around and with our children is helping to form them into the people they are becoming. Sure, they have their own personalities, but the work you do is so important. So very important in shaping their little hearts and minds.
God’s Grace is Sufficient
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in your weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
Mama – give yourself some grace. Better yet, accept the grace that Christ offers to you freely. His grace is sufficient for what you need today. His power is made perfect in your weakness. One of the beautiful parts of hard days is that they remind us just how not together we are in our own strength. When we reach the end of ourselves, we are reminded of our dependence on Christ and when we get to that place, and really hand over control – that’s the sweet spot. To be parenting with Christ and relying on his strength and grace for ourselves and for our kids.
His Mercies are New Every. Single. Morning.
“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23
For the days that seem to just take it all out of you and you are totally wiped out before bedtime, there is this promise. His steadfast love never ceases. His mercies are new every single morning. So, get some rest. Go to sleep and know that when you wake up, it will be a new day with new mercies. Another shot.
Your Work is Worship
“So , whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31
I like to identify the “whatever you do” in my own life as all the mundane things that go into my role as a mom (and specifically a stay-at-home mom). It’s all those things that on the surface are not glamorous. It’s the dishes and the cooking, the laundry and the putting away, the changing diapers and potty training. It’s making sure the pantry is stocked and there are snacks in the diaper bag. Wiping snot while reading the same book over and over again, and totally forgetting what popular music even sounds like these days. It’s in welcoming others into your mess and inviting them to partake in your home with you. All of these things.
Let us serve our families well in response to the great grace that’s been given to us in Christ Jesus. These “whatever you do-s” – these mundane same old same olds – these are our acts of worship. Let’s not waste them.